Is it permissible for a man to engage in foreplay with his wife by inserting his fingers into her back passage?.
Praise be to Allaah.
It is permissible for each spouse to enjoy the entire body of
the other, looking and touching, even the private part. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):“They are Libaas [i.e.
body-cover, or screen, or Sakan (i.e. you enjoy the pleasure of living with
them)] for you and you are the same for them”[al-Baqarah 2:187]
With regard to the husband engaging in foreplay with his wife
in this manner, this may mean one of two things:Either touching the anal sphincter, or by inserting his
finger into the anus.With regard to simply touching the anal sphincter, there is
nothing wrong with that, but it is better to avoid doing that because that
may lead to something else.With regard to inserting the finger into the anus, this
should not be done, for several reasons:1 – The anus is the site of uncleanliness (najaasah) and
faeces.2 – One of the reasons why anal intercourse is forbidden is
so that the penis will not come into contact with unclean faecal matter; by
the same token inserting the finger into the anus will make it come into
unnecessary direct contact with unclean faecal matter.3 – This action is something that is abhorrent to the sound
fitrah (innate nature of man) and offends good taste. Rather it is blind
imitation of those whose fitrah is corrupt and whose tastes are nasty, who
do everything that they think of to satisfy their animalistic desires with
no care for good manners, morals or cleanliness, and their desires make them
see something foul as something good.4 – Persisting in doing that may lead a person to do that
which is worse than that, namely anal intercourse. This is the habit of
those who follow their desires and do whatever appeals to them, so they
gradually fall into more serious things because of the less serious things
that they are attracted to. Thus they move step by step until they end up
committing “lesser sodomy” (intercourse with a woman in her back passage).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) described that
by means of a brilliant analogy when he said: “What is permissible is clear
and what is forbidden is clear, and between them are dubious matters of
which many people are not aware. Whoever is cautious in the dubious matters
will save his religious commitment and his honour, but whoever falls into
dubious matters will fall into haraam, like a shepherd who grazes his flocks
around a private pasture and is liable to enter it at any moment. Every king
has a sanctuary, and the sanctuary of Allaah is the things that He has
forbidden. In the body there is a piece of flesh which, if it is sound, the
entire body will be sound, and if it is corrupt, the entire body will be
corrupt. It is the heart.”Muslim, 4049.
5 – What Allaah has prescribed in the relationship between
husband and wife is sufficient and there is no need for anything else.
Allaah has not forbidden anything except that which is harmful.The questioner should realize that in His complete wisdom,
when Allaah forbids something (in this case, intercourse in the back
passage), He also forbids the things that lead to it, because when a person
does the things that lead to a haraam action, his heart becomes attached to
it and finds himself torn between either doing the evil action or keeping
away from it, and suffering because of that. So he does not keep away from
haraam in such a way that he has peace of mind, nor does he fall into it and
fulfil the desires of his evil nafs. Usually in such cases a person ends up
doing what he thought that he would never do of major sins that doom a
person to Hell and ruin all his affairs, both religious and worldly, and
ruin his life and take away all blessings (barakah) from his wealth and
children, as a result of his moving far away from his Lord and transgressing
His sacred limits and not caring about the fact that Allaah is watching him
in all his affairs. The wise man is the one who does not take lightly those
things that lead to disaster in his religious commitment which is the
capital of his wealth and comes before his worldly interests.The Muslim should understand the true nature of things and
what they lead to. He should not be affected by what the Shaytaan makes
attractive to him or think of evil actions as insignificant, lest that cause
him to become one of the losers. He has to fear Allaah his Lord in secret
and in public, and remember that Allaah can see him and knows his intentions
and what he does, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):“Allaah knows the fraud of the eyes, and all that the breasts conceal”
[Ghaafir 40:19]
He should remember that what is with Allaah is better and
more lasting, and that the Hereafter and the delights that it contains is
better for him than this world, and that the reward for being patient in
refraining from evil actions is Paradise as wide as the heavens and the
earth, in which is whatever the heart could desire of perfect pleasures that
are free of all evils.See also question no.
36722.May Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad.
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